Are your gifts and talents truly up and running or is something holding you back? Barriers bust dreams and negativity is one of the grim reapers. Negativity stops many folks, because they're not even aware it's so much a part of their lives. To see where you stand, try this experiment...Keep track of your conversation with others. Pay really close attention or you won't even be aware how much it directs your focus. See how many negative words you speak to others and how many occur in your self-talk during the course of a day. If you really keep track and write these down, it will absolutely astonish you.
Examples might be...
I'm not smart enough...There's not enough time...They always see what John does and overlook me...I hate...Why can't I be lucky like...If only this were the case...
You get the picture. But where to start change?
With you. If you love to arrange flowers and have spatial talent, for instance, you would feel great pleasure in gardening at home. But if it has been your dream to develop these gifts further and make that a life work, you'd be satisfied to fulfull your dream...While many people develop their gifts, many more do not. And that's a good reason to reflect and determine what holds you back.
Negativity is at the front of destroying dreams, good relationships, and achievement in the business world. To know an enemy is to destroy him.
Negativity can actually take you down physically since it releases cortisol in the brain. Dr. Ellen Weber notes that cortisol "shuts down learning ... and can cause depression." And, there's more...
To ensure you stay away from dangerous levels of cortisol today… run from stress and flee those triggers that inject negative thinking … and you’ve already headed away from cortisol and toward serotonin… for a better day at work. Now think of one thing you enjoy… look forward to or plan to create… and your brain will rewire itself for a far better workday. It’s just how the hormones work for you rather than against you, and you’ll be shocked at the results.
Here's a collection of blogs on negativity and strategies to spark change...
Shocking Twist to Sarcasm's Two-Edged Sword
Tips to Raise Serotonin and Well-Being
The Power of a Stress Free Mind
Stay Positive for Winning Deals!
Why Is It Harder for Some People to Deal with Negativity than Others?
Develop the "Flip-Side to Overcome Negativity at Work
Take a Risk or Sit on the Fence?
Negative People Burn Out Your Brain
Today, Anna Farmery at The Engaging Brand, plans to interview me on negativity for a Podcast she'll soon post. I've listened to her Podcasts and I'm looking forward to this exchange. Stay tuned....While you might be surrounded by negative people don't let them influence you. Got some plans to get your gifts up and running if you've been stalled by negativity?
6 comments:
This is a great post! I've dealt with this issue alot, and can absolutely attest to the fact that negativity definitely will thwart the achievement of one's dream.
I've included this post in my Friday Favorites post this week!
Kwiz, thanks for highlighting this blog... I hope it helps some of your readers achieve their dreams! That would really make my day.
Stay tuned next week when I post the Podcast of Anna's Farmery's interview with me on negativity. She really picked my brain. :-)
I am so looking forward to hearing the IPod interview between you and Anna Farmery on this topic Robyn. Great stuff!
Thanks for commenting over at my blog! Funny that I came here to read your post on negativity (oh so true!) - I just finished a long email to a friend on about the same thing around the healing of the Chesapeake Bay (we are way to focused on what is wrong with her). I am happy that I see so much emphasis on positivity rising everywhere (including in me)...it is a good harbinger of things to come! Great post!
Thanks, Tammy. I had just looked at sarcasm as part of humor and it led me to think more about negativity. When your focus is the problem only, it prevents you from deveoping solutions.
We're on the same page...
Ellen, thanks. Anna covered many bases in her interview and I look forward to seeing it posted.
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